So Gabby is dishing the Do's & Dont's on relationships. Gabby recently sat down with Glamour magazine and gave her best advice, which is pretty good I might add:
Check sum of Gabs Do's & Dont's below
DO forget your “type.” It worked for me.
When I met Dwyane, his “résumé” looked like crap: athlete, going through a divorce, nine years younger than me. None of that screamed, “Let’s have a lasting relationship.” Then, after I had a heart-crushing breakup with yet another immature jerk, I thought, it can’t be any worse if I date a fetus. Let’s just see what happens. Turned out he’d been on his own since he was 15. He had wisdom that comes with facing an insane amount of adversity. He’s sweet, funny, honest about his shortcomings. When I put my preconceived notions to the side, I found someone cool.
DON’T put up with a friend-versus-boyfriend tug-of-war.
Some friends act possessive and say, “You’re not spending enough time with me.” Huh? Remember when we made our vision boards and the dude was in the middle? You’re supposed to be happy for me. Thankfully, my girls are like, “High-five!” And D likes to be around them too. If there’s weirdness, either something’s wrong with the friends—or the boy. Investigate. And sift accordingly.
DO show him your feelings. Daily.
Dwyane generally gets up before I do to go to the gym, and he’s never left without kissing me and telling me he loves me. As for me, I am complimentary to the point where I am almost a little Chester the Molester-y. I think he’s so delicious. Watching him get out of the shower never gets old. Never. It’s not like he ever wonders what I’m thinking, but usually he’s thinking, She needs a cold shower!
DON’T write off an ex (or get back together) without really thinking it through.
When you’re debating whether to go backward or forward, you have to look at the original issue. [When Dwyane and I broke up briefly in 2013], it was because of distance and scheduling. I finished filming the show, then I flew to Vegas right away to start shooting Think Like a Man Too. I couldn’t take time off, and I missed some quality togetherness we desperately needed.
Over the summer, I reassessed priorities. I’d always wanted an awesome career with back-to-back projects, but I realized I wasn’t willing to sacrifice my relationship for it. Moving forward, I decided my work schedule has to make sense for our family. Bottom line: If an issue’s a deal breaker, it’s a deal breaker. If your relationship isn’t something you’re willing to give up and you can compromise, do so.
DO talk babies early on
If you really want a family, and the guy cringes when you bring it up, you’re not in the same place. Maybe he’ll get there, but you can’t pooh-pooh that shudder.<
DO indulge your inner freak.
Sometimes my girlfriends will mention sexting or certain positions as something they’d do only with a guy on spring break. They’ll say, “You don’t do that with someone you love.” And I’ll say, “That’s who you’re supposed to do it with.” If I can do this awesome, amazing thing with some dude I met at a bar, why wouldn’t I be able to do it with the person I love? If you’re into it and he’s into it and it’s legal enough that the police aren’t going be involved—then go for it! Do it. A lot.”
DON’T rush into marriage out of fear of dying alone.
I got married at 28 because my friends were getting married, starting to have kids—and, in my mind, 26, 27 was old. I thought, I’d better jump on this because soon I’ll be 30 and an old maid. And I chose wrong. You can’t go by what your friends are doing or your family is influencing you to do. Think about this: Worst-case scenario, do you want to give this fool half of your money? As the person who had to write the check at the end of my marriage, had I thought aboutthat, I’d have put more time into choosing the right person. And, yes, the wait can be scary—that feeling of “Am I always going to be watching TV alone, cooking for one; is my best friend my only real soulmate?” But the right person is worth the wait.”